You’ve seen the viral TikToks. You’ve probably binged the Hulu series The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives. But if you’re like most people, you’re still trying to figure out the man who was right at the center of the storm before the cameras even started rolling. We’re talking about Tate Paul, the now-infamous Taylor Mormon Wives ex husband.
While Taylor Frankie Paul has become the face of "MomTok" drama and reality TV chaos, Tate has largely become a ghost. He’s the guy who stayed behind while his ex-wife moved into a spotlight fueled by scandals involving "soft swinging," arrests, and internal group warfare.
Honestly, it’s a weird spot to be in. One minute you’re a standard Utah dad with a growing family, and the next, your private life is being dissected by millions of strangers because of a TikTok Live that went nuclear.
The Reality of the Tate Paul and Taylor Split
Before the world knew about the "swinging" scandal, Tate and Taylor were just another high-profile Mormon couple on social media. They got married back in 2016. At the time, Taylor was only 22. They had two kids pretty quickly: Indy and Ocean.
If you look back at the old content, it looked perfect. Glossy. Very "Utah." But as we now know, things were anything but stable behind the scenes.
The marriage basically imploded in May 2022. That’s when Taylor hopped on a livestream and dropped the bomb that changed everything. She admitted that she and Tate were getting a divorce. The reason? A "soft swinging" agreement within their friend group that went off the rails.
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What Actually is "Soft Swinging"?
A lot of people get this confused. In the context of the Utah MomTok group, "soft swinging" meant that couples would hook up with other couples, but with one major rule: you don't go "all the way." It was basically everything but full intercourse.
The problem? Taylor admitted she broke those rules. She didn't just cross a physical line; she caught feelings for another husband in the group, specifically Brayden Rowley.
Tate was, understandably, done.
Where is the Mormon Wives Ex Husband Now?
While Taylor stayed on social media and eventually landed the Hulu show, Tate Paul took a massive step back. He didn't want the reality TV life. In fact, Taylor has mentioned in interviews that Tate was actually approached to be on the show but turned it down. Smart move? Probably.
Instead of chasing clout, Tate has focused on rebuilding a "normal" life. Here’s the tea on where he is in 2026:
- He’s remarried: Tate found love again pretty quickly. He is now married to Bailey Paul (formerly Bailey Roberts), an esthetician.
- A new family: Tate and Bailey welcomed a baby girl in late 2023. This makes Tate a father of three now.
- The "Shadow" Life: He keeps his Instagram mostly private or focused on his hobbies, like music remixes. He’s basically the antithesis of the "MomTok" brand now.
It’s interesting because even though he isn't on the show, his presence looms over it. Taylor still uses his last name. Why? She’s said it’s easier for the kids and for legal paperwork, but it keeps that link to him alive every time she posts.
The Co-Parenting Dynamic (It's Kinda Messy)
You’d think after a scandal that involves your wife falling in love with your friend during a swinging party, things would be "no contact" forever.
But life isn't a movie.
Tate and Taylor still have to raise Indy and Ocean together. According to Taylor’s recent updates, they’ve managed to find a weirdly functional rhythm. Tate actually gets along with Dakota Mortensen (Taylor’s on-again, off-again partner and the father of her third child, Ever).
"My ex is doing great... I love him and his partner," Taylor told Distractify recently.
That’s a level of maturity most of us wouldn't have. But there are still clear boundaries. For example, Tate is reportedly the reason the older kids aren't featured heavily on the Hulu show. He’s protecting their privacy, which is a stark contrast to the rest of the cast who put everything on display.
Why Tate Paul Still Matters to the Story
People search for the Taylor Mormon Wives ex husband because he represents the "before" times. He’s the person who knew her before the domestic violence arrest in 2023 and before she became a polarizing reality star.
His absence from the show actually makes him more interesting to fans. It creates a "missing piece" in the narrative. While the other husbands on the show like Zac Affleck or Conner Leavitt are getting roasted online for their behavior, Tate is seen by many as the one who got away and stayed sane.
Key Takeaways and Insights
If you’re following the Mormon Wives saga, here is what you actually need to know about the Tate situation:
- Privacy is a Choice: Tate proved you don't have to lean into the drama. He could have cashed a Hulu check, but he chose a quiet life with a new wife.
- The Scandal was Real: Sometimes people think reality TV drama is scripted. The swinging scandal that ended Tate and Taylor’s marriage was very real, and the fallout led to multiple divorces in that Utah circle, not just theirs.
- The Name Remains: Taylor Paul is still Taylor Paul. Even though Tate has moved on and started a whole new family, his name is essentially the "brand" for MomTok.
If you want to keep up with the story, your best bet isn't looking for Tate on TV. You’ll find the real updates through Taylor’s podcast appearances or the rare glimpse on his new wife's social media. He’s moved on, and honestly, can you blame him?
Next Steps for Readers:
Check out the latest episodes of The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives on Hulu to see how Taylor handles the ongoing fallout of her past. If you're curious about the legal side, you can look into the public records of the 2022 divorce filing in Utah for a clearer timeline of their property and custody split.